How easy for me to notice when other people cause their own problems. They self-sabotage. Some people will ask me for advice, argue with me when I give it to them, and then ignore it by choosing another course of action. The action they choose always makes matters worse for them. Then they whine and blame other people for the trouble they caused themselves.
These people are on a merry-go-round of self-sabotage. Round and round they go. They will come to me again to help them out of problems they created. They love drama and will go to great lengths to create it and wallow in it.
It took me awhile, but I’m aware of what they are doing. I don’t always get on their merry-go-round when they come to me for help. Besides, I am busy causing my own problems so I can complain and blame and wallow in my pain.
The more I look at other people, the more I see my self. How nice of these people to act as a mirror for me.